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Opinions, thoughts, musings, and even some complaints.
… On Behavior …
As previously mentioned, relationship are tough; we all understand that. However, their difficulty is only compounded with reckless behavior, lies, and deciding which rules (or dare I say laws) we are going to follow in the name of “keeping ourselves safe.”
I went down a rabbit hole strictly out of curiosity after I was told about these groups and the hilarity contained within them.
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Continued from the original posting
… On that note, and a nice segway, if you’re a member of that sad little social media group that posts anonymously bashing men with no oversight, accountability, verification/validation, and no true moderation (I will not breath air into it by naming it), then we are not compatible. I have never used online dating, and still haven’t to this day, because I received a warning by some of my female friends that there online man-bashing groups.
I have several friends, men and women (couples) that are members of these groups using the wife or girlfriend’s social media, and in different cities (including San Antonio), that talk about the reckless postings on these groups and the lack of moderation. The specific warning I was given was that if a guy is posted more than once, the “he’s been posted before” comments start and that’s supposedly always a negative connotation with no context, and begins to chip away at a guys reputation just because he was posted before, so even if you don’t do anything wrong, being seen multiple times is bad. No thank you! Short of physical violence (which is what the police are for) or communicable diseases, no one should recklessly smeared like they do in these groups. Unchecked, anonymous, shit-posting forum memberships does not scream “I’m a responsible adult female,” and you can definitely pass on me.
Don’t be like this…
While my Army buddy and his wife were showing me this Facebook page, they showed me where one woman (something about an “Avocado” in her screen name) is in law enforcement and is suspected of using government systems to conduct background checks on guys that she and her group-mates are (or potentially may) dating or going to date, which is unethical, illegal (fraud/waste/abuse), and has apparently been reported.
Anonymous male bashing is the overall theme, and during the couple hours we spent going through postings of men on this page, all of which are posted by different “Anonymous Members” and replies posted by “Anonymous Members,” there are several postings made accusing men of cheating, postings of where men work, postings about men having criminal charges and/or convictions, posting their private information such as their sexual exploits, postings claiming men have committed child abuse, sexual assault, and other heinous crimes… and not a single post contained a link for verification or other information confirming these claims… just multiple pictures of a man on a dating app that he thought were safe, pictures that are being posted illegally and violations of copyright laws and violations of the dating apps terms (I’m sure), all under the protection of anonymity, the approval of Facebook (by inaction), and all without verification, validation, accountability, or consequence. These women in particular are just deciding which laws they want to follow, and massaging the context of the rules until they can justify their repeated violations of privacy, copyrights, and other laws, all so it suits them and what they want… innocent victims be damned.
BTW, there’s a 100,000+ person google document floating around with the real names and professions (if included in their Facebook profile) of women in the San Antonio group(s), with links to their Facebook profile. Someone downloaded the member list of these groups and it’s online, so if you’re on this searchable document, I’m not interested. While telling these friends that I wouldn’t even want to date someone in that group, my best friend’s wife said, “you want the list for San Antonio? It’s online with the other cities and they update it.” Yes please! I was even shown where they are all sleeping with the same guys by their own admission, up to ten of them in the same posts, they talking trash about the guy when they are all sleeping with him, and that’s definitely the kind of thing I want to avoid. Then, I saw wives in this group without their husbands knowledge, posting pictures of their husbands asking if anyone is sleeping with them, all without the husband knowing… and that’s why I’m thankful for my friends, they share everything as couples, as far as I know.
I’d never even heard of these groups until I got to this city in December, but apparently they’ve been around a while and there is a massive lawsuit going against these groups and the member lists have been downloaded and shared… and no, I won’t tell you were it is and/or if you’re on it. Doesn’t feel great, right… your reputation, images, potentially your professional information and comments about you floating around in a place you don’t have access to, to see if what is on there about you is true?
This is why I won’t date online, and I am not some abusive shit head and have a clean background, clearances, concealed weapons permit, etc… but I can definitely go without having my pictures on some secret Facebook group and being smeared because I won’t put up with someone’s bullshit. No thank you.
While I understand the initial intent behind these groups (I saw that there were “rules,”) they violate their own rules by literally just poking fun at men’s appearances, posting where their band is playing in comments (like that’s better,) and just being general jack asses for the most part.
The last thing I’ll say is the hypocrisy is audacious. These women in particular are posting images of men that are not theirs, they have either been uploaded to dating apps, sent by the man to the woman, or otherwise obtained. Then, these women in particular are reposting copyrighted images, which the Copyright and Trademark Offices deems as “not original work” meaning if you don’t take the photo, you can’t use it online, and even Facebook themselves said not to do these things. So, these women in particular are violating copyright laws (and more than likely privacy laws) as they are distributing content online that they do not own the rights to, all completely green-lit by Facebook through lack of ACCOUNTABILITY and supervision.
I found a question posted online in a legal forum, where someone was trying to file a lawsuit for this very thing, and the law offices of Gordon Feinblatt responded with:
Yes, selfies are copyrighted from the moment they are created, with ownership belonging to the person who takes the photo. As the photographer, you automatically own the rights to your selfie, allowing you to control its display and reproduction. Facebook allowing a selfie or photo of you taken, and then being reposted without your permission, is illegal and upon subpoena will be forced to disclose who posted the image for purposes of identifying responsibility for the act. However, this does not absolve Meta, operating as Facebook, from responsibility for lack of control and moderation of content on their platform.
Key details regarding selfie copyright:
- Automatic Protection: In the U.S. and many other countries, copyright protection is immediate upon fixing the image in a digital file (saving it).
- Ownership: The person who presses the shutter button is generally considered the “author” and owner.
- Social Media: While you own the copyright, posting to social media platforms often grants those platforms licenses to use your content based on their terms of service.
- Unauthorized Use: Using someone else’s selfie without permission is likely copyright infringement, even if it is a picture of you taken by someone else.
Anyway, enough of that.